In adoption, refers to the polite way to discuss or mention adoption-related issues or to refrain from mentioning them.
Most adoptive parents, adopted children and adults and birthparents would probably appreciate some generally accepted basic rules of etiquette regarding adoption. The following list is a set of several rules the authors have drawn up, based on their knowledge of adoption, for the friends and relatives of individuals whose lives are somehow affected by adoption:
These are basic rules of etiquette for individuals who have not adopted. Hopefully, individuals who have adopted, placed or were adopted will also follow them. As Miss Manners stated in response to a question from an irate adoptive parent about prying questions from others, "Telling people pleasantly that there are things you refuse to discuss with them sets an excellent example for your baby." (See also TERMINOLOGY.)
Judith Martin, Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior (New York: Atheneum, 1982).
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